Dear Older Self, You may find yourself resisting the changes and growing vulnerabilities of aging because of fear. But you might also find yourself resisting because of feelings of shame. Shame is that belief that if people knew you fully, they would reject you. It is that feeling that you are less-than others. Or the sense that your needs make you look weak and unloveable. You know how shame … [Read more...] about Notes to Our Older Selves: Practice Humility
Notes to Our Older Selves
Dear friends, Thank you for your patience with me as I took a break from posting for the last few months. Thanks to those of you who checked in to see if I was okay. And thanks as well to those of you who let me know you missed hearing from me. Thanks to all of you for your support in reading, and sometimes interacting with, what I share here. I have had a challenging year but I am well and … [Read more...] about Notes to Our Older Selves
Be Who You Are
Whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. Matthew 10:39 One day while driving along a familiar road, I found myself accelerating through a yellow light. Everyone behind me had to stop, and I felt for an instant that I had “won.” It was as if we had all been racing and I had just pulled ahead and beat everyone. I enjoyed my small victory. But my pride didn’t last long. In order to … [Read more...] about Be Who You Are
Express Gratitude
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever. Psalm 107:1 Every year just before or after New Year’s Day my husband and I plan a special date. We go out to lunch or dinner and sit together for some time compiling a gratitude list for the year that is about to end. We have been doing this for more than a decade. Typically we end up with a list of seventy to eighty items … [Read more...] about Express Gratitude
Grieve
Blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted. Matthew 5.4 I was first introduced to the term “grief work” as a nursing student in my early twenties. I knew nothing about grief. The religious culture in which I had been raised didn’t grieve much. At least not that I ever saw. Our preachers sometimes said things at funerals that would stun the average person. Things like, “This is … [Read more...] about Grieve
Acknowledge Death
Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. Psalm 90:12 Life is full of loss. There are little losses and big losses. Ultimately, no matter how hard we try to stave it off, death itself will come to us and to those we love. Whenever we are faced with any difficulty, it is likely to have woven into it the fear of some kind of loss, some kind of death. I soon … [Read more...] about Acknowledge Death
Pursue Peace
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. John 14:25 Recieving a diagnosis of cancer left me in a state of anxiety that lasted for months. Struggling with the impact of childhood trauma had increased my anxiety for years. Just hearing or reading the daily news can sometimes leave me anxious. Life is full of anxiety. Anxiety can lead to many kinds of problems. Sometimes we stay busy … [Read more...] about Pursue Peace
Meditate
May the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14 Many of us have times when we our minds race. Our minds might randomly switch from one thought to another. Or repeatedly rehearse a future event. Or play a past event over and over. Sometimes our minds get fixed on one idea and miss everything else. Or our … [Read more...] about Meditate
Seek Guidance
Whether you turn to the right or the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it.” Isaiah 30:21 The day after Christmas my husband and I met for the first time with the surgeon. She was the one who would tell me what I needed to have done and what losses I would encounter in the process of treatment. She told us a great many things that … [Read more...] about Seek Guidance
Ask for Healing
Praise the Lord, O my soul; all my inmost being, praise his holy name. Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s. Psalm 103:1-5 When we think … [Read more...] about Ask for Healing